This article is by way of a follow-up to my previous post, How Does it Feel to Spank a Woman? In that post I talked about some of the downsides to the euphoria of realising your fantasies, particularly the feeling of being physically abusive towards a woman. It is a fact that a small but significant percentage of ‘spankers’ are equally happy to switch roles and become ‘spankee’. There may be a number of reasons for this mindset, but I have a strong suspicion that many ‘switches’ do so in order to alleviate the unpleasant after-thoughts. ‘It is OK to hit her, because I enabled her to hit me back’. Of course this is probably a gross over-simplification, but I can only write about things as I see them. Comments, as always, are most welcome.
Before going any further, I should scotch any suggestion that being submissive to another person is a sign of weakness. In fact the opposite is more likely to be true, since it takes considerable strength of character to place oneself in a vulnerable position. Many naturally submissive men have substantial difficulty with this and often never come to terms completely.
I am a spanker, and there is nothing I like better than to have a willing female obey my (often outrageous) ‘play’ orders.
This is where my natural mindset takes me, and where 95% of my fantasies are founded. But buried somewhere deep within me is the urge to place myself at the mercy of a dominant woman. Not a bullying woman, mind you, that would just make me rebel.
Not that I haven’t tried this out. Several girls have offered to spank me, and I have felt sufficiently trusting in them to allow it. But then reality strikes. It hurts, and I don’t like it. And notice my terminology, ‘I allow it’. I do enjoy sharing the intimacy that being spanked invokes, but the physical side simply doesn’t work for me.
So in the end, my answer to the question is that it is alright, but one really does have to be pre-programmed with the right mindset in order to get anything significant out of the experience. I would surmise that my reaction to being spanked is probably very similar to that of a non-spankee woman who finds herself married to a husband who wants to spank her. I think many will be prepared to tolerate it for the sake of their man, but will never come to enjoy it. And for those husbands, spanking someone who is not sharing in the eroticism will begin to feel more and more abusive.