3 Common Fantasies In Spanking – And Why They Matter

Not a very palatable scenario.

The Rape Fantasy

For the person issuing the options, they are manipulating their ‘victim’ towards succumbing to physical violence in a categorically illegal way, most probably taking advantage of a situation in order to satisfy their own self-centred urges. With direct parallels with forcing the victim to perform other sexual acts (and quite possibly in addition to), the victim is known to be caught between a rock and a hard place and taken full advantage of. Who knows how many countless thousands of employees have found themselves in this very situation over the decades, and I have absolutely no doubt that it is a daily occurrence somewhere around the world. We can only despise those who victimize in this way, regardless of whether the victim has actually done something wrong to place themselves at their mercy.


And yet the ‘rape fantasy’ is widely recognised as being easily the most common female fantasy. And for many, being inveigled into accepting a humiliating bare bottomed spanking, and more, comes a very close second. For reasons – possibly not even known to themselves – men and women imagine themselves being forced into situations where they become a helpless victim, and the more extreme the better.

The School Fantasy

‘The school scenario’ is extremely common among those with a predilection in this way. Nothing to do with children, I hasten to point out, these are adults replaying their childhood memories. Not too surprising given the power dynamics  between teacher and pupil, and the very common sexual attraction that school pupils often encounter towards their chosen teacher, the pinnacle of these fantasies unsurprisingly being, ‘called to the Headmaster’s Study’ in order to be disciplined. But any situation in which a power dynamic exists may be involved, most specifically one in which the submissive has committed some form of minor transgression. Illegal parking, unpaid library fine, late for work, caught speeding, forgetting the dry cleaning, over spending, unpaid rent, the list is almost endless. Fantasies involving an in-law, or other family member, suggest hidden depths which the owner may not be aware of, despite indulging the fantasy repeatedly.

The Authoritarian

The power dynamic requires balance, and for every person fantasising a submissive scenario, there is another who imagines themselves to be the person wielding that power. This comes as a disturbing realisation to most. While the submissive role can be seen as ‘being forced upon the helpless victim’, the authoritarian role is deliberate, aggressive, invasive, molesting, and cowardly. Some never come to terms with where their subconscious mind takes them, and the fantasy is buried deep within them as being disgusting and abhorrent. Here danger lurks, as ‘unacceptable’ thoughts can lead to an unbalancing of the mind, and potentially, full-blown mental illness.

I completely misunderstood how this fetish might manifest itself in my peers during my formative years. I mistakenly, although understandably, expected my more timid, shy peers to tend towards sexual submissiveness. And consequently I sought for potential playmates in precisely the wrong half of the pond. Many years of experience later, and extended discussions on mailing lists and message boards, I now understand that a sexual submissive is much more likely to hold a position of authority, while the sexually dominant tend to be anything but powerful in daily life. Obviously this is a sweeping generalisation, but it holds true for the majority, in my experience.

What is very apparent, is that those who assume a false identity and publicly proclaim their spanking fetish around the Internet, myself included, are certainly the tip of the iceberg. It is my own personal estimation that for every ‘declared spanko’, there must be another five or ten who indulge quietly with their partner (with or without the partner’s knowledge), or never have the opportunity to indulge at all. I learned long ago not to be surprised when a new woman came onto the scene, having become divorced at 40, and proceeded to unfold her spanking-aware wings to indulge in long-frustrated frolics for the very first time.

I relish the opportunity to participate with a ‘young lady’ who is still coming to terms with, and realising her long-held spanking fantasies. I find it intoxicating to be involved with her, carried along by her wonder and realisation that it is OK to be like this, like nurturing and watching a rose-bud slowly expand into full bloom.

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